tanhaHow do you do it?
January 11th 2007 06:57
There is wisdom in many counselors says the biblical proverb. Oh, how many big mistakes could be avoided if we learned that. How often we go stumbling, doing what ever feels good at the time.
Emotions are not the greatest indicators of what is going to work! ‘If it feels good do it”, they say. What a trap that is! How many things can you think of that that one statement might lead to? Single motherhood? Financial disaster? Loss of a friend? Breakup of a marriage and tragedy for some children? A career thrown away? Psychosis? And a million others.
Be very suspicious when you hear that hedonistic statement. It is at best irresponsible and at worst deadly. Human beings being as they are – less than perfect- feelings are things of the moment only and can be deeply regretted later.
There is a force at work called entropy. It reduces things down to the simplest essentials if there is no energy there to maintain them. For example if you leave a car out in the rain it will rust and deteriorate until finally it is nothing but a heap on the ground.
As in the physical, so in the psychological and spiritual (not necessarily the same). Nothing gets built and maintained without a plan. The best plans are made using the advice of various experts in their fields. So, in every area of life seek expert advice, be it planning a family, a new house, a career, a business venture, health. We never have all the know-how on our own. We never get it right in the instant we first thought of it.
Let the young people find mentors among the older generation – there is so much to learn and you don’t have to re-invent the wheel. Even if your parents aren’t able to help you, you can find those in the community who will. Then listen to them. They can save you so much heart-ache. If you find a good church, (not just any church) you’ll discover it’s like having a family, and there’s plenty of good counsel there. Take it.
Be strong enough to go against the peer-pressure thing because if you are not, it will break you. You have to be your own person. You have to take responsibility for the results of your actions. You are the designer of your own life and there will be no-one else to blame for your wrong choices.
But under good advice you can conquer the world. You can achieve those dreams you had. You can arrive at eighty with few regrets. You can’t do it alone, but you can do it. How would that be?
Emotions are not the greatest indicators of what is going to work! ‘If it feels good do it”, they say. What a trap that is! How many things can you think of that that one statement might lead to? Single motherhood? Financial disaster? Loss of a friend? Breakup of a marriage and tragedy for some children? A career thrown away? Psychosis? And a million others.
Be very suspicious when you hear that hedonistic statement. It is at best irresponsible and at worst deadly. Human beings being as they are – less than perfect- feelings are things of the moment only and can be deeply regretted later.
There is a force at work called entropy. It reduces things down to the simplest essentials if there is no energy there to maintain them. For example if you leave a car out in the rain it will rust and deteriorate until finally it is nothing but a heap on the ground.
As in the physical, so in the psychological and spiritual (not necessarily the same). Nothing gets built and maintained without a plan. The best plans are made using the advice of various experts in their fields. So, in every area of life seek expert advice, be it planning a family, a new house, a career, a business venture, health. We never have all the know-how on our own. We never get it right in the instant we first thought of it.
Let the young people find mentors among the older generation – there is so much to learn and you don’t have to re-invent the wheel. Even if your parents aren’t able to help you, you can find those in the community who will. Then listen to them. They can save you so much heart-ache. If you find a good church, (not just any church) you’ll discover it’s like having a family, and there’s plenty of good counsel there. Take it.
Be strong enough to go against the peer-pressure thing because if you are not, it will break you. You have to be your own person. You have to take responsibility for the results of your actions. You are the designer of your own life and there will be no-one else to blame for your wrong choices.
But under good advice you can conquer the world. You can achieve those dreams you had. You can arrive at eighty with few regrets. You can’t do it alone, but you can do it. How would that be?
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